18 and the Anxiety of growing up.


I’ll be 18 in just days !
* play Ribs by Lorde *

This is supposed to be a birthday wishlist blog post, but I just thought that I have a lot of things included in my list. So I’d just write something different.

You might be thinking that I just made this blog post today, but it’s not. I wrote it a little earlier, as soon as I got the idea. Ahaha.

When I was a kid, I was honestly not frightened about growing up, I wasn’t desperate to grow up either.
But now that I’m here, and time seems fleeting, I just realized that being grown-up means getting a lot of responsibilities. Especially, the responsibilities that you have to take for yourself.
I am kinda ambitious, and one of my greatest fears is to end up nothing in life.

Chasing life, I found new things that I loved and still love : art, writing, advocating. And even some things I can’t mention in here.

Last year, I just started writing my first novel, and it’s something that I always talk about. I’m still working on it, because I promised that I won’t give up on it.
But there’s this little fear inside me that I may not finish what I’ve started. Or what if no agent would believe and hold on to my ideas. What if publishing companies would not like the storyline?
There’s a lot of questions I can form in my head honestly.

Being 18, means starting college too. But the question is: do I yet know where school to go? No.
Am I already decided with the course I wanna take? No.
And this blog!
With that facts alone, you can already tell how anxious I possibly am.
How worried I am with my future.

I am the kind of person who’s working according to the plans. But if I’ll tell you, my plans aren’t made yet.

But on the bright side of life, I’m still looking for whatever thing it is that I can do for my life. At the end, I don’t know the path in front of me, so I just have to keep going.
Even if there are questions, worries, fears, demotivating moments. Whatever it is.

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But again, I have created a newsletter which I’m hoping to be successful.

I got 2 new subscribers when I linked it on my last blog. I’m thankful for them.

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18 thoughts on “18 and the Anxiety of growing up.”

  1. Happy early birthday!!!!
    Being 18 is huge! I’ve been 18 for a few months now and WOW! It’s an amazing year of change and responsibility. I still am super nervous about everything that’ll be happening soon. Hang in there… you’ve got this!

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  2. Happy early birthday!
    It’s okay to not be certain of the future! Everything will work out. As for the novel, that’s so cool! I’ve heard so many stories of authors who got rejected at first, but I’m sure you’ll find the perfect agent/publisher. Just keep working towards it and it’ll work out 🙂

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  3. Aww, happy early birthday, Thony! 18 is a beautiful age and an exciting time. You have plenty of time to figure out what you want out of life. Just enjoy the ride and keep your heart open. You’ll know what that special thing is that you’re meant to do. 😉

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    1. Thank you, Manessah!
      Yeah, that is why it’s both exciting and a bit intimidating for me.
      But you’re right, it’s the time to figure out life ahead, and whatever is meant to happen- will happen 🙂

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  4. I can highly relate to this post. Sometimes, I’m scared to grow up and become 18 before achieving all goals I have in mind. I know age is just a number and we can achieve anything at any age but sometimes I feel like I haven’t achieved much till now. Good luck with your blog and your novel!!♥️and happy birthday in advance 😄

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    1. Thank you so much for reading!
      I so so agree with your comment.
      Sometimes, no matter how much we tell ourselves that it’s always never too late for everything, there’s just this fear and mindset that we might get limited in achieving goals when we’re older.
      But Let’s just work. That’s the best thing to do.

      Thanks for the greeting, btw :)) ♡ xo

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    1. I can’t relate more, maryam! So so true, the fear just gets higher. But I think it’s better that we just work on whatever it is that we can work on, and be grateful for whatever outcome. We just leave it up to God.
      Anyway, thank you so much for the greeting 🙂 ♡

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